It seems to me, that we, humans, would be much less anxious and far happier, if we accepted a simple fact- human is a part of nature! We are not “above it”; we are governed by its laws, just like all the other forms of life are. Humans invented morals which do not exist in nature, whilst being a part of nature- hence the intrinsic moral conflict, and the suffering.
The plants and the animals, the men and the women- we utilize all our wits to obtain access to space and energy, and therefore, to survive. This means our behavioural spectrum is comprehensive- our aim is to procreate and rear the young- so women lovers simply act in the ways that will ensure the former.
The flower petals, so bright and fresh on a sunny morning.. then wilted and rotting sweetly in the dusk, warming up the seeds within. The flesh of one’s mate is the energy source for the babies inside of mum-spider’ tummy..
Sexual cannibalism is a phenomenon that exists in some species of spiders and snakes- females consume their partners before, during, or after copulation. Biologists describe it like this:
“ Ongoing struggle between competing sets of coevolving genes, phenotypic and behavioural traits”.
Evolutionary arms race – Wikipedia
If you accept and respect the facts referred to above, then why are you disturbed and scandalized that “women are dishonest and devious, and love for no reasons”? as two men below imply.
I am speaking of women who are real women, who operate on three different levels. Superficially cool and rational, they have three secret compartments: the first is constantly full of womanly fret and anxiety; the second is … like the fearsome sophistry of the self-righteous; and the last is filled with an engaging dishonesty, a charming deviousness, a consummate duplicity, with all those perverse qualities… which by others may be judged quite delightful.
– Guy de Maupassant
He maintained to Beatrix that love existed only by desire; that most women deceived themselves in loving; that they loved for reasons unknown to men and to themselves; that they wanted to deceive themselves, and that the best among them were artful.
-Honoré de Balzac
Besides, why do we assume that “ deviousness and dishonesty” are not beautiful?
What a strange illusion it is to suppose that beauty is goodness.
– Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina
Women lovers behave in all sorts of ways; some of them are truly the whole palette- as bemused Honore, who can see no reason in how the women love, nevertheless observed in his novel “Beatrix”:
“My child,” said Camille, “if you want to succeed with Beatrix, you must seem to love me still, or you will fail. You are a child; you know nothing of women; all you know is how to love. Now loving and making one’s self beloved are two very different things”.
What Camille did- despite being deeply in love with Caliste- is orchestrate his affair with her friend Beatrix, in order to fulfil his fancy, and give him some love education; she later became a nun and left all her money to Caliste, setting him up as a noble and wealthy family man.
Quite the opposite to the female spider behaviour, it seems.. What can I say? Our mysterious human nature if full of contradictions; and the same men who despised and blackened love in their earlier years, appear to have altered their views later on.
There is only one good thing in life, and that is love.
–Guy de Maupassant
It was love that had worked the revolution in him, changing him from an uncouth sailor to a student and an artist; therefore, to him, the finest and greatest of the three, greater than learning and artistry, was love.
-Jack London